Recently, a friend told me he was going to write his thoughts on feminism, it was after he read my post “Teach them who they really are”( By the way go check it if you didn’t). He shared his writing yesterday with me and I didn’t wait but asked him if I could share his text on my blog. His name is Dorel Ndayisaba, a very smart young man!
Here is what he wrote:
A plan B to replace the original purpose of the indispensable human creature.
Loosing the sight of the meaning of something makes people devalue or abuse it.
There has to be a reference in our concepts, our characters, our values.
Without a steady reference, everyone has full rights on (re)defining everything.
And right there is the problem.
Some have made themselves rulers of the world, the example to follow.
At the start, it was quiet good; economic development, independence, …
And inevitably, the line has been crossed…behavior, social standards, life concepts and so many more now were being redefined.
The hunger of becoming took over the thirst of being.
Everything has been redefined; again starting by the public subjects and going to the private ones…
“Work more to become ”; “Study more to become”; “Smile more to be”; “Love more if”; “Hate more if”; “do not accept to be”; “this is not acceptable…this, is”
See the progression…
(Un)fortunately, wrong does not become right just because it has been voted so.
Nature does not care at all.
A human is still priceless.
A woman is still the missing part in all the depicted ideal pictures painted by the society.
Every word said here above comes from the lack of reference.
“I know what I want. I know who I am.”
“From where did you get that information?”
“For me, I don’t need anyone/anything to dictate my life.”
“Now if you did not create yourself, the question is who put that information in you?”
Saying that we are our own sources is not logic. If it is so, we are raising so many other questions and this one is central:
“Am I worth 20,30,40 years of existence?”…I mean really??
Am I like a flower.. “here today and gone tomorrow?”
There has to be a steady reference that surpasses us.
The only fact that we are not the initiators of this world is enough to prevent us from setting the rules. The smartest among us go for the initiator and ask him what was his intentions when he was initiating all this; his values, his concepts; his precepts, his statutes.
Who taught us how to live, how to think, how to be a man, how to be a woman, how to obey, how to disobey,…
Or I’d say this; Who taught us if life is worth living, if it is worthy to be a man, worthy to be a woman, worthy to obey,…
Still the question remains the same… “What is your reference?”
I am aware that this text was supposed to be about ‘feminism’ but it is only mentioned once; because you are far more valuable than redefining yourself through the eyes of a movement.
Just find the one who defined you first.
The truth will show us the way, then and only then, we will live.